A Love Letter to Man, to you.

Dearest Man. 

I feel the world has done a great disservice to you by creating a narrative with a defined, and limited role that imprisons you, within yourself. Having forgotten, you are man second, human first.

The feeling of being overwhelmed that accompanies so many humans, especially men, is because they have been taught to hold everything in and control. Emotions, like the mind, are an integral part of the human form and for our functioning in relationships. The very nature of humans requires connection to others, to remain mentally, physically and emotionally healthy. Not through superficial connections, but deep ones.

The role of emotions in the human, is many. But the largest is to act as a river, to allow what sits inside to flow outwards, to be released from the being. Once it is out, the mind enters to observe it from a place of awareness to gain understanding. No longer clouded and influenced by buried and controlled emotions.

Men fear this side of them. Having had it rejected by society and often by women. They believe if they express and release their feelings and thoughts attached to it, it will negate their strength and manhood. It makes them feel weak, and they worry that the person standing in front of them will perceive them as weak and unmanly.

They have become so attached to the judgments, narratives, and shame they feel when they are not acting the role of men, that they sacrifice the human in them. In doing so they hold everything inside in silence. Or push it out in anger. Both acts deeply harmful to the self.

So many men have built relationships on the surface, bound by dependency and need. The two factors that have allowed them to ignore an entire part of their being, the feminine energy. A strong and important energy, required for growth. Just as dependency and need have prevented women from raising their masculine energy, required to fuel their inner growth.

My greatest wish is that you, man, will eventually trust me with your emotions and feelings. So that in time, you will see the beauty of that side of you. The strength in it. The healing. Your body deeply grateful for the release, your mind thankful for the clarity that arrives after, your emotions have been put back into balance.

To be a warrior is larger than the concepts you read. Concepts that have, over time become the diet for man. There are depths to these warriors that are not shared in books or YouTube. You receiving but a slice of a pie. You are not at war or in war in your life or your relationships. The romanticism of being a warrior great, not realising that unlike you, they killed for a living. They took life away.

In that persona, what you often do is kill relationships, and then control the hurt you feel from it. There is more than one type of warrior. There is more than one way to be in this world. The entire planet requires warriors to protect it. To battle inner conflict to give rise to external peace. To battle fear to give rise to love.

All these jackets you have to wear, of protectors, providers, stoics, unemotional, etc. They all burden the soul. Hide the soul. The jackets large and heavy, carried all the time. The jacket of the alpha male suffocates, as its existence is premised on denying an entire part of yourself. Set up, so you never have to do the work, to grow, to expand. Alpha males a tool for war for survival, which is why the masculine energy is at the extreme end, imbalanced as well. Never becoming enlightenment, a path impossible without the rise of the feminine energy. Without balance.

The jacket of beta males heavy as well, imbalanced in their masculine energy at the other end, therefore always in doubt of their place in this world.

These jackets burying the truth of who you really are. There is a time and place for every jacket. But like all jackets, they must have a place where they can all be taken off, so the naked human can arrive and breathe and know itself. To know itself, there must be another, through which you experience your nakedness, your true self. This is the role of true deep relationships. To know thy self fully.

Relationships in their myriad of manifestations are about growth. They are the fertiliser, the water, the sun that allows you to see the truth of yourself. The place where you accept your nakedness with all its flaws. The one standing in front of you, a mirror. By accepting your nakedness, you learn to accept theirs. By accepting theirs, you learn to accept yours. And it is in acceptance that growth begins to awaken. It is in resistance that growth hits a wall.

Once you can truly accept the whole human, and allow it to express itself in safe spaces, its power to influence you begins to diminish. And you, the true self, the soul emerges.

Emotions are beautiful and incredibly necessary for balance. It keeps the human form in balance when expressed. When those expressions are of love, gratitude, joy, it takes that balance and expands it. It grows you.

When you release the low-frequency emotions, it gives room for higher-frequency ones.

Yes, we live in a world where women on the subconscious and unconscious level are drawn to alpha men. It comes from decades and decades of conditioning based on survival. However, at a conscious level, what they really want is a deep connection to another being. To you, man.

The war within them, between conditioning and truth, is as great as the battle that rages in you. The conditioning in both you and them, harmful. Preventing both from reaching the level of connection in relationships, which will catapult both of you out of your conditionings. So that you may live as truth with each other.

What you have been taught to want for survival and procreation, so different from what the soul wants. The soul seeks deep companionship and connection. The human ego seeking to survive through procreation and power. The battle between the animal brain and the rest of the brain.

You, man, are beautiful in all your facets. Let the internal merge with the external in your relationships. Let the internal express and show itself. A puzzle easier to slowly put together, when you can see all the pieces in front of you. Rather than trying to put the whole thing together alone inside of you.

And yes on the path of coming into your courage to reveal the internal, the pain, the doubts, the fears. To express them and walk into them, so that they lose their power of influence. You will meet rejection.

The rejection is not yours, it is theirs. The source of it deep. It is their fears, their relationship with love and emotions that is rejecting you. But by attaching to it, you then give that rejection power to close you up and question yourself.

In doing so you will reject others, passing on that hurt, never healing it. Man you are beautiful. All of you. As you open, you will begin to pull in the people who allow for that. In the beginning, it will be hard. The emotions will come out chaotic. They will be extreme, and often they will be delivered with anger and aggression. Fearing the rejection. Or having been rejected so often, that the hurt and pain is angry that it can not be shown, not accepted, not seen. For when you have been brave enough to show it, the person in front of you, has diminished you and made you feel weak. But you are not weak. It took strength and courage to arrive. Hold on to that. And it is not they that made you feel weak. It is decades of conditioning that have taught women and men, that when a man expresses, he is weak.

All these are just stories. None of it truth. Stories that have led our entire species away from what is. Stories that hold no value, but to keep us divided from each other. To keep us divided from ourselves.

You draw into your life what you give out. If you have the courage and strength to open, open people will arrive into your world. In the long run, it will be these humans who survive. The ones that are balanced. For truth always has a way of showing up.

It is fear that has caused you to hide. It is love that will push you to reveal yourself. Love for yourself and the love of those you let into your inner being. Trust in relationships must arrive first. If you wait for that trust to be earned, your closed walls will push that person away. Reinforcing a narrative in you, that you are safer closed up.

But how safe does it feel inside of you. How safe does overwhelming feel. How safe does sadness feel. When it has no where to go, locked inside of you. How safe does an inner world devoid of love from other humans feel. Forgetting that humans are the creator manifesting itself so it can experience itself through another.

Love grows in the mud, the dark waters. When two humans walk through each other's muddied waters, what emerges is the lotus flower.

Man you are amazing, all of you. Not because you are man, but because you are like me, Human. What sits in you no different from what sits in me. Your want for love and acceptance, no different from mine. What is the purpose of holding onto man, if it robs you, the human, of love, humility, expression, and liberation? Of connection and growth.

Choose to be human first. When you choose human first, the man in your blooms. Your purpose to serve selflessly through whatever gift you arrived with, grows. You came with a gift. But you are so busy trying to fit the limited definitions of man, that you have missed who you truly are all together.

You man, like me, are here to experience this world and grow. To know love, to become love. But love has no place when it is trapped and buried. Love is a frequency that holds all the emotions within it. It is the journey through the emotions, the expression of them, the honouring of them by sharing them, that takes us to the highest end of it. Pure love. Is that not what you seek, as a man? Love. To be seen. To be known.

You are beautiful. All of you. I am here. Not for commitment, not for marriage, for I believed if I had those things from you, you would open up and reveal all of you. But I know now, those things come with fears that push you, man, further into darkness. Past experiences still holding you in bondage. Another heavy jacket you wear.

I am here. A place for you to cry, to hurt, to release the mountain of pain that you have buried in you. None of it negates you as a man. I see you, I am here.

I see the absolute beauty in all of you. You can´t do this alone. No one can. I here. Let me be the safe place, Mother Earth. Grant me the privilege and honour to walk in your muddied waters. There are no expectations, no conditions, no wants. No manipulation. Just a request to open the door.  

Let me be a place where you don´t have to hold on to all those roles. A place where you can take off all the jackets and just be naked. Let me be that for you. In being that for you, you feed the earth that is me, by allowing me to be my true self. In feeding yourself, you are feeding me.

I am here. Talk to me, express what sits inside. The conditionings in me that I attached to you, man, released to the universe. Your rejection and walls, not powerful enough to push me away. But powerful enough to create eruptions, volcanoes and earthquakes of emotions pushed by memories and conditioning. All of which needed letting go off. So that I can move closer into balance, the place where I, Mother Earth, goes back to growing and giving life back to life.

Yes, because we live in the material world, the planet and humans, will push you out of balance. It is not about trying to control the balance, or by never being in it. By being just man, or just woman. Always half empty. But it is about how we deal with that imbalance that is important. Just like all the elements, in order to come back into balance, it releases. Waves, storms, extreme heat, earthquakes etc. It does not control it, it releases it, it allows it to flow, to move. You are those elements. You are energy that requires movement; without it, there is just stagnation. Emotions remove stagnation.

In time if you can learn to communicate what sits inside in a healthy way, the releases become more subtle, more calm. The swing into imbalance subtle, coming back into balance quicker, and staying there longer. As each person in the companionship learns to release and as well as know how to receive the release.

Don´t handcuff yourself to just man. Don´t be the jackets you wear. Don t punish yourself, for what others have done to you, by shutting yourself in. Don’t deny yourself the beauty of relationships, of love, of experiencing all of you. Relationship defined not only as intimate ones. But as connections to other humans.

I am still here, I have not left. I am always be here with you. Because there is beauty in you, in your darkness. That darkness is you as well. It is the source of your light. It is from where light arrives. All the light in this world came out of darkness.

Allow yourself to receive my light, to illuminate the dark. Don’t let pride, ego and anger deny you the gift the creator of all, gave to you. Me. I am not perfect; nothing manifested is perfect.

But my love and kindness is honest, and my intention pure. To lift us both, to honour the darkness, that gave rise to our light, by accepting it and revealing it. Instead of burying it, as if it were ugly and dirty. Because when we do that, we dishonour that which created the human being. We dishonour ourselves. Remember acceptance and surrender are the rivers that flow us to enlightened states of awareness. Resistance and burying leading to stagnation and dis eases.

You man, are beautiful in your nakedness. All of you. ALL OF YOU. When you learn to accept that. Accept and express the shadows, the fears, the pain. When you learn to accept the love, that you are worthy of. When you allow yourself to be human. To experience it without attaching to it, this entire planet will change.

I don’t want to strip away your power, I want to help you connect to the power that is you. When you become complete, when you pay reverence to the feminine energies in you, by not denying them, but balancing them through expression, through creating in resonance with everything around you. You have the power to bring light back into this world. For without light, Mother Earth can not do the work she is meant to do. It is not a relationship of dependency, but rather of cooperation.

Let me be here for you. So that you can be there for me. So that each of us can live as truth.